Last some days have been exceptionally unsettling, mostly due to stress at work place. Since it was keeping me disturbed and stressed, I could not focus on writing too. I tried a lot to write, made short snippets to put into a single piece and kept loosing it on the way. There was so much urge to write, but, even though I had some thoughts on mind, they were not taking any shape in the form of words. After which I decided to collect myself, I started to understand a few things, here’s sharing with you.
Overall, for a long time in my life, I spent time stressing myself over things which were out of my control. And also when something in me was indicating confusion, chaos, there was always a debate inside of me, which I could not conclude, anytime.
Lately, as new experiences in life happened, I learnt I must put a closure to the debate, an end to the confusion, else I would not be able to break my cycle of stress, which eventually lead to other consequences on all aspects of life.
Relationship with our work and people is not too different, infact, really close on the good and bad things we experience as in our personal relationships (if you are one of those, like me, for whom work is yet another love, I am sure you feel what I am saying).
There are a few questions I have started to ask myself, each time I am unable to gauge the action ahead and find myself at a place of confusion / chaos.
Do I feel respected?
Do I feel valued?
Do I feel trusted?
If the answer to the above 3 or even 2 is NO, it helps me in understanding the way forward for myself.
If I stay in the situation as is, It now is only a trade of my ‘respect’ for maybe the ‘emotional safety’ in a relationship, or a trade between my ‘value’ for the ‘salary / fee’ being given to me and so on.
Needless to say, it, definitely is a critical decision point, since, it’s your inner self-belief at stake, vs something which is temporary, but can cause lasting damage to your inner self. A decision where no compromise can help, it has to be on either sides. The side I now choose, is always the one that has respect, value and trust.
The way forward may vary for all of us, but, there is surely a need for some action on it. Recognising the moment of decision is in itself a discovery that helped me drastically in combating my stress and is amazingly helping in my personal learning and growth.
Thank you Universe for these understanding and realisations that so help frame how I want to see my life moving forward.
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